Between blotch and blok

The difference between our opinions is that to you it
should be my responsibility to make sure I'm not offended by your
behaviour, whereas to me, your behaviour can only be your responsibility.

Let's try again, shall we? I don't like cigarette smoke. But, where it's legal to smoke, I put up with it. If I am at a party, and people are (with the consent of the host) smoking tobacco, and it's an enjoyable party otherwise, I do not insist that the smokers go lock themselves in the loo. Before the advent of the smoking ban in pubs, if I was in a pub and people were smoking, I did not demand that they lock themselves in a toilet cubicle where no one actually had to see them. It was legal for them to smoke: they were smoking: my reaction to their behaviour was my responsibility. You would appear to feel that, if you're made uncomfortable by people smoking where it is legal for them to smoke, it's their responsibility to change their behaviour, rather than yours to remove yourself from their vicinity.

The difference between smoking and breastfeeding is that one cannot stop breathing around a smoker, whereas one can quite easily just avert one's eyes from an infant feeding at her mother's breast.