Between blotch and blok

No, I don't have a right to offend. I do, however, have a right to express my opinions without being insulted, accused of deviance and assumed to be a bigot.

Heh. Sure, you have the right to express your opinions. But, to quote your own advice back to you, "in that atmosphere of deeply grey areas, I think it's by far wisest to put the politics on the back burner and do what you can to avoid constant stress and confrontation." In short, if you feel that the important thing is to avoid constant stress and confrontation, you shouldn't go around expressing your opinions.

But if you do, and you know your opinions are broadly offensive, you shouldn't then complain that you have been identified as the kind of person your expressed opinions suggest that you are - phobic about breastfeeding, unwilling to be adult about your phobia and manage it courteously without disrupting others, and with a sense of entitlement so high it's breathtaking.